So just like the topic of poo, I bet you didn't think I'd be the first to talk about sex. Well you're just going to have to wait (or scroll to the end) to read about it. So here is the next blog instalment! Enjoy!!!!
Well have I had an interesting week! And of course I must start with the best day of them all............SATURDAY!!! of course!
It was so amazing seeing you guys again! And Alikay, your absence was definitely noticed, but at least we got to chat that day (^^). B/E, I am so happy you managed to come! Even if it was for a short time. Next reunion should be Christmas themed! Even though we went to Winter Wonderland....anyway it did make me reminisce about the first time I ever went to Winter Wonderland which was with other Biomeds. And we were dancing outside when snow started to fall! It was such a magical moment. And this Saturday just added to that moment. Winter Wonderland is just full of happy moments, which I guess is common for most.
Oh speaking of Japan, went to Yo! Sushi on Saturday too (very satisfyingly packed and fun day) and although it is highly overpriced (but we had 30% off) the deserts are amazing! So First we have the chocolate mochi which is 'OMG HEAVEN' good. The custard pancakes with raspberry sauce, then lemon and shortbread and last but by no means least, chocolate mouse with meringue. Now you've probably guessed that I'm a sucker for interesting ice cream flavours, this one is sesame (I also had the chestnut) both of which I could each tubs of. Salivating now just thinking of them =_=
So as you have seen, via the book of face during the week I did a lot of vegetable chopping. So this was finished off by onion chopping, and yes I cried like hell! I cried as if it was the end of the world!! As if LOTR never existed cried or Gandalf dies twice! But any one would if they have 40 onions to chop! Highlight, was this interesting double onion!! It's like my very own double rainbow moment! Anyways, after 3 days of chopping I finally managed to make a lifetime supply of a Mauritian dish- Ashar. It's sort of like spicy, preserved vegetables. Now I said lifetime supply, however in our monster food eating family, it lasted a week!
This week, I got mail! Now I don't know about you but I've always loved getting mail, purely because I never get mail. However, as you grow older you start to HATE mail and realise it is not such a good thing, and this week I've discovered why. I received a lovely letter from student finances saying that I need to start paying back the fairly large loan that I have built up these past 3 years. It also said that I need to clarify that I am unemployed.....WORST MAIL EVER!!! Not only did it remind me of *whispers* the debt but it also decided to throw unemployment into my face! *sighs*
Ok so on to the main event that you are all wondering about:
So I have a close friend (actually close friend, not me!), the quiet kind of person, who has been going out with her boyfriend for about 2 years now. So she is very strict in the 'no sex before marriage' thing. So I find out recently that she and her boyfriend have had sex....but she's still a virgin......yes hmmm, questions suddenly pop into your mind right! Well same here. So basically, instead she has given herself a more painful ordeal and did so with her previous boyfriends too. Please, I hope you know what I mean because I am DEFINITELY NOT spelling it out for you any more. Ok, so she believes that this way she can keep her virginity but still please her boyfriend. Now I can see where she is coming from, but I don't agree that it would still 'count'. Now I'm not judging her, but at the same time I'm not going to lie, my opinion of her did change (not in a bad way but I just never would have imagined her to do it like that- it's always the quiet ones!!! :P) and yes, I've known her for so many years, and just never would have expected it. I think it came more as a shock than anything else. Also, the fact that I didn't hear it from her and our WHOLE friendship group knows because the guy (whom I never really liked, but at the same time had to accept) is a douche and blabbered about it to EVERYONE, and the worst thing is, she has no idea that everyone knows!!! So I did some research- mainly trusty wiki (and deleted my history) and I still stand by my view. So, I wanted to open this up to you guys for discussion. What do you guys think? Does it 'count'? Also, should I tell her that everyone knows? *ponders till head hurts* (in my defence it is 3.30 am!)
Looking forward to reading your replies
Oh and I know I have a lot of pictures but was just so excited about adding more mini hats to my collection!! So cute!!! PLus I didn't want the last thing I talk about to be about fornication :P
Aren't they the cutest! Well FYI if you buy an innocent smoothie with a hat but don't want the hat, please save it for me!!!
It;s been fun chatting,
Until next week!!!
Jpie
I assume you mean sodomy… =oP
ReplyDeleteSo this is interesting because traditionally speaking she is still a virgin. Female virginity in most classic and archaic settings was/is tested by an examination of the hymen. If it is intact the woman was classed as a virgin if broken then the woman was classed as a whore =o/.
However, as I'm sure you know, you can damage/break the hymen through many none sexual activities e.g. Horse-riding. So this test isn't very reliable!
In a more contemporary analysis I believe she'd be said to have lost her anal virginity as, as most people who I've spoken to (not that many mind) would separate out the idea of virginity into subcategories describing each individual sexual act.
Finally, in a Religious and "moral" analysis she would be seen as partaking in the pleasures of the flesh (and he definitely has) and so would be deemed as having lost her virginity.
Personally, I assume she is attempting to retain her virginity due to religious reasons (assumptions are naughty, I know, but hey what else is a boy to think =oP) and so I'd say she'd failed. Plus if she was really intent on keeping her virginity then she should respect herself enough to find someone else who holds similar values or is willing to wait it out for her. All she has done is destroy her integraty and degrade herself for his pleasure, and I feel very sorry for her =o(
As for telling her I'm split...Morally/Hypothetically/'In a universe where people were logical' I would tell her straight out so she could dump the knob! However, people never react to that kind of news in the way you'd expect and she might say you're making it up down to something stupid like jelousy (believe me: I've been in a similar situation and I was made out to be the bad-guy!) In our world I might tell her you heard a rumour from the person who told you...that way you tell the truth but don't incriminate the boyfriend then she can follow the trail of Chinese whispers back to its source...plus you cover your own back in case it is actually something one of her 'friends' made up about her!
One a lighter note...Nope I didn't expect you to be the first to bring sex up at all! I think you're trying to hit all the 'naughties' before anyone else now! =oP
Sorry for the long ass reply but this got me thinking ;o) xxx
ReplyDeleteAlex i am so glad you stated what the hell she had done as i had no idea. which for me i know is surprising.
ReplyDeleteAnd jess i am so surprised you were the first. and we're all thinking it, you all expected it to be me :p
Well I had pegged on to what you were on about Jess, although I couldn't quite believe it (hence the outburst on your wall lol)
ReplyDeleteBut I'd also like to thank Alex for putting across such an eloquent and (mostly) balanced analysis.
I'd generally agree with what you've said, hymen permitting she'd technically still be a virgin vaginally but sex is sex to put it simply. Why I say mostly balanced is because without actually talking to her (it sounds like she doesn't know anyone else knows about what her and her boyfriend get up to) about her motivations. it's a bit judgey to draw conclusions on the consequences of her actions ("degrade and destroy her integrity).
That's just my opinion. It does SOUND like her bf is douche though.
I can safely say Katie, that I had not expected anyone to bring up sex on here. Can we now have a label called 'sexy times'
Fair point Mad...I would just like to state for the record that what she does with her virginity is up to her...I realise I came across a little preachy at the end there; not my intention at all. Personally I don't mind sex before, after or during a wedding I just feel that if someone makes the conscious effort to remain "pure" and then gives it up for a partner that is unwilling to wait then maybe that partner isn't there best match and they should have carried on with chastity and seen the loss of the relationship as a blessing in disguise...but then I'm just stubborn like that =oP
ReplyDeleteP.S. I'm not gonna lie I thought it would be me or you Katie lol
Errm.....I think i know who the friend is now. Oh dear :/
ReplyDeleteNo.1 I cant believe we still dont have the label 'sexy times'!!
ReplyDeleteAnd yea completely agree that its her body she can do what she wants and I dont judge her but it just sparked up a debate in my head and just wanted to know the general consensus.
But I think its a cultural thing (more than religious even though they are really closely related).
Also I don't think she was forced....I think she wanted to because she loves him so much (how or what she sees in him I will never know or understand() but it is a case of me thinking its not the right guy for her because she could do so much better! That's what really gets me...and she is so in love with him and I think she'd be so embarassed if I brought it up and I dont what to ruin our friendship :S
So basically Im stuck
Also ....you know?!!?
Yes Jess...I believe I do.
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